Good Advice - Safety Tips to Follow

There are certain steps and precautions that every person should follow when connecting with parents or mentors — both online and offline.

We ask you to take a few minutes to read these tips, and require that you follow them.

Parenting Mentors will conduct criminal background checks on our members, however, not every report is 100% accurate. If you would like more information about a certain individual or member, we recommend using the Internet and other government resources available to everyone. The internet provides a number of ways to obtain background information about a specific individual. You can type a person's name into a search engine for background information, review public information made available by government offices, or using another paid service to obtain a full background report.

Online Safety Tips

Protect your finances
Ignore any request to send money, especially overseas or by wire transfer, and report it to us immediately – even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like sending cash: the sender has no protections against loss and it's nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace the money.

Guard your personal and online access information
Be careful about sharing other personal information, such as your full name, phone number, email and address. You are in control of your online experience at all times – remain anonymous until you feel ready. Take advantage of our member-to-member technology that protects your identity until you decide to reveal it through email or IM. Also, leave any personal contact information out of your profile or username.

Use extra caution when accessing your account from public or shared computer so that others are not able to view or record your password or other personal information. If you share your computer with others, disable the auto sign-in feature and clear all saved passwords to avoid accidentally giving someone access to your profile and account.

Note: Parentingmentors.com will never send you emails asking for your username or password, personal, or financial information. Be aware of fishing scams such as these and report this kind of communications immediately.

Be "Web-Wise"

Be wary of communications that ask you to act immediately, offer something that sounds too good to be true, or asks for personal information. There are certain red flags to watch for that may indicate you're dealing with a scammer.

Be aware of anyone who:

  • Quickly asks to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service
  • Claims to be from U.S. but currently traveling, living or working abroad
  • Asks you for money
  • Vanishes mysteriously from the site, then reappears under a different name
  • Talks about "destiny" or "fate"
  • Asks for your address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts
  • Makes an inordinate amount of grammar and/or spelling errors
  • Sends you emails containing strange links to third-party websites

Be cautious and use common sense. If personal details provided by another person don't seem to add up, they behave suspiciously or pressure you for personal or financial information – block communications with that person and report them to Parenting Mentors immediately.

Block and report suspicious members
You can block a specific member and report concerns about suspicious or inappropriate activity anonymously from any profile page, email or IM window on the Parenting Mentors website. Additionally, please report anyone who violates our terms of use.

Examples of terms of use violations include:

  • Asking you for money or donations
  • Members sending harassing or offensive emails/IMs
  • Members behaving inappropriately after meeting in person
  • Fraudulent registration or profiles
  • Spam or solicitation, such as invitations to call 1-900 numbers or attempts to sell products or services
  • Your involvement will help keep the community safe and enjoyable.

Offline Safety Tips

First meetings are exciting, however, always take precautions and use the following guidelines.

Get to know the other person before meeting them offline
Use the technology on Parentingmentors.com that protects your anonymity to get to know someone before disclosing personal information, or meeting in person. Again, we will conduct criminal background checks on our members, however, not every report is 100% accurate. If you would like more information about someone, we recommend using the Internet and government resources available to everyone. This can include typing the person's name into a search engine, reviewing public information made available by government offices, or using a paid service to obtain a full background report.

Always meet in public
Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location, and never at your parent/mentors home or apartment.

Stay in a public place
It is best not to go back to your parent/mentors home or bring them back to yours on the first in-person meeting. If your parent/mentor pressures you, end the meeting and leave at once.

Tell a friend
Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going. If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it with you.

Stay Sober
Keep a clear mind and avoid doing anything that would impair your judgment and cause you to make a decision you could regret.

Drive yourself to and from the first meeting
Just in case things don't work out, you need to be in control of your own ride – even if you take a taxi.

Keep personal items with you at all times
You don't want to risk having personal information stolen. If you're drinking, keep your drink with you at all times so it can't be tampered with.

Long Distance Meetings
Long distance meetings pose special safety concerns to take into account. Keep these tips in mind:

  • Stay in a hotel. Check into your own room and avoid staying in the other person's home. If you can't afford a hotel, you shouldn't go.
  • Use a taxi or rental car to get to and from the airport. Securing your own ride is important. Even if the person you're meeting volunteers to pick you up from the airport, do not get into a personal vehicle with someone you've never met.
  • Keep your hotel location confidential. The person you're meeting should respect your privacy until you know each other.
  • Remember to keep your family and friends posted. Tell someone who you are meeting, where you are going and when you will return.

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